So you’re single again you probably thought this guy or girl was going to be the person you were going to spend your life with. Now it is over, everything around you seems really gloomy right now….everything seems to remind you of this person. Now that you are single, where do you begin? You cannot start dating because you’re still heartbroken or angry about the situation.
But then as time went by I realized that he was never the guy that I thought he was, he was a selfish bastard and I honestly did not want to be married to a man like that. Some months passed and I saw on Facebook that he had married that young woman. I was kind of sad, but started to put the pieces together. I realized that he was most likely seeing this woman while he was with me and he was just using the both of us but chose her because her situation was better than mine was at the time and he could exploit her more; either way I dodged a bullet, meaning that what if I actually married this guy and had a family with him and found out that he was a fraud. At the end of the day I learned that God knows best and that if you are truly meant to be with someone you will be with them. Also, eventually a person’s true character will be revealed so don’t be surprised be aware and prepared. To this day I have him as a friend on social media because I want him to see what he missed out on and to see me shining with out him.
How You Can Survive
Picking up the pieces
So, first thing’s first…break all ties. How do you do that? Start by getting rid of all things that remind you of this person. If you had a cellphone plan together or anything linking the two of you together you need to break the tie. Also, if you were close to any family members or friends limit interaction with them to avoid any conversation about that person being brought up.
Avoid Hooking Up With Your Ex
It can be hard and even tempting not to call up your ex to hook up. Don’t do it, imagine how you feel like afterwards knowing that he or she still does not want to be in a relationship with you. Hooking up is just going to set you back in the healing process. But we are all human if you do, do it and feel like crap afterwards don’t say I didn’t warn you.
Start Soul Searching
Sometimes when people are in a relationship they lose themselves…So now that you are single take this time to discover unknown things about yourself. Try new experiences…start exploring new activities, new foods, create a bucket list of these things. You could even turn to God or higher power for comfort and guidance to get you through this time. If you don’t believe in God or higher power connecting with nature and the outdoors is always a great way to clear your mind.
Switch it up
Maybe you have thought about changing up your look a bit but just did not have enough confidence to do it. Or maybe you’re thinking to yourself I’m fine with how I look now. But often when people are in a relationship they let themselves go because they figure “I’m off the market”. Either way be open to the idea of changing your look a bit, after all you are now “back on the market”.
Set Goals and Achieve Them
Set short term goals, make sure that they are goals that you can actually achieve. Set yourself up to achieve them by making sure you have everything you need to make it happen.
Exercise is a great way to release some stress and the good part about it is that you can transform your body while you’re at it.
Start Dating with an Open Mind
The thought if dating again may be scary, so go into it with an open mind have fun! Don’t date your “usual type” give someone else a chance and who knows you might hit it off!